The Renewal Times

February, 2010.
ISSN 1705-3773 The Renewal Times

The Renewal Times is a publication of Renewal Technologies Inc. and is edited by Roger Ellerton.

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Included in this newsletter:

• Thought for the day
• Health Notes
• Upcoming Seminars
• Feature Article
• Humour
• More Information

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Thought for the Day
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Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.

         Mahatma Gandhi

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Health Notes
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Tuna and Eggs Good for Your Brain

As if wrinkles weren't bad enough, turns out our brains tend to shrivel as we age, too. Research seems to indicate that eggs and tuna can be the key to less shrinkage.

Why? Because both tuna and eggs are good sources of vitamin B12. And B12 may help keep brain atrophy in check.

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Walk, Live Longer

A comfortable daily walk is a good place to start if you want to live younger and longer. Include a few spurts of power walking, too. This kind of "interval training" can be a great way to boost your exercise capacity -- an emerging marker of longevity.

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Available This Month
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Parents' Handbook: NLP & Common Sense Guide for Family Well-Being will be available in late February 2010.

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Supporting Our Graduates
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Bryce Healey is a Coach (Executive and Personal) and Professional Speaker with The SmartFolks. Through a variety of coaching techniques, he delivers the art and science of liberating individuals from their limiting beliefs and empowering them with the resources they require. This can be done one-on-one or in a group presentation format. Furthermore, what he can do for individuals he can do for your organization. www.brycehealey.com.

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Upcoming Seminars / Workshops
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We are pleased to offer the following public workshops/seminars in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada:

Introductory NLP Evening

April 14 or 20, 2010 7:00pm – 9:00pm. Because of demand, we are offering this introductory presentation on two evenings in April. The April 20th evening will focus on NLP and parenting. Pick the evening that works best for you.

Please come as our guest. Invite a friend to come with you. Registration is required so that we can reserve a seat for you. E-mail your name and the number of people attending to info@renewal.ca. For more information, please see www.renewal.ca/freeseminar.htm.

During these events, we will have book signings for Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up: NLP and Common Sense for Coaches, Managers and You and Parents’ Handbook: NLP and Common Sense Guide for Family Well-Being.

NLP Practitioner Training

Seven consecutive days: July 5 - 11, 2010.

NLP Master Practitioner Training

Four weekends: March 26 - 28, April 16 - 18, April 30, May 1 - 2 and May 28 - 30, 2010.

For our most recent schedule and a description of these workshops/seminars, please visit www.renewal.ca/neurolinguistic.htm

Click on the following link for the location of our NLP Training Centre in Ottawa (Stittsville), Ontario, Canada.

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Feature Article
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This article may be reproduced, provided it is reproduced in full, including author bio and a link to renewal.ca. If you republish this or any of our other articles without including the author's name, bio and a link to renewal.ca, you will be in violation of copyright law and sent an invoice.

Responding in a Resourceful Manner

By Roger Ellerton Phd, ISP, CMC, Renewal Technologies Inc. www.renewal.ca

I am always fascinated by people's behavior. Lately, I have been observing how people respond to sales pitches or ideas/concepts that are different from their firmly held beliefs. Some people get curious and explore how these new ideas, etc. can be incorporated into what they are already doing, others respond to them with "so what?" and others respond in a vitriolic fashion. The focus of this article is on this latter behavior.

I, and I'm sure you, have seen or been the recipient of this hurtful or spiteful behavior in social media groups or when someone is attempting to sell an idea, concept, service or product. Although their underlying concern or intention may be well-founded, I tend to discount their position or argument based mainly on how they have chosen to respond.

What is it that leads people to respond in this manner?

First, consider the NLP presupposition (basic assumption): The meaning of your communication is the response you get. What meaning or interpretation have these people taken from the sales pitch or concept? I suggest it is often fear or lack of safety for themselves or others. This fear can be related to being physically hurt, taken advantage of and the one that many people avoid saying is fear of the unknown. People have been known to do harm to themselves or others to avoid experiencing the unknown.

Given that people do the best they can with the resources available to them - another NLP presupposition. These people are reacting in the best way possible for themselves, based on the circumstances as they see them. However, as a result of their behaviors, their arguments are not fully considered by others. Although, they achieve their objective of perceived safety by driving the presenter away, they do not achieve their ultimate objectives of having their message clearly understood and potentially protecting others from the perceived threat. Nor do they open the possibility of exploring a larger world and thus giving themselves more choice and enjoyment.

If you find that in the past, you have responded as described above, what can you do when a similar situation presents itself in the future? I suggest the following:

• Establish clear boundaries. That is, have clarity on your beliefs and values. When you are not sure of your beliefs and boundaries, then you are fearful that people may violate them without your knowing.
• Put yourself in a resourceful state. That is, you feel good about yourself and the boundaries you have chosen.
• Respect the right of the other person to have a perspective or opinion that is different from yours. As long as they are presenting their perspective in a respectful manner, hear them out and explore if there is something that can be of use to you.
• If you feel the need to present an alternative view, put yourself in a position of safety and resourcefulness. Then, while respecting the other person and their right to have a different opinion, provide your first hand experiences or information from respected sources that are contrary to what you have heard or raise questions that will require the other person to provide factual answers in reply.
• There may be a point where the two of you choose to have a difference of opinion. Accept the other person’s right to think differently and then excuse yourself from the conversation in a resourceful manner with integrity and get on with your business.

Using an approach such as this will generate more interest and support for your position or thoughts and you will feel better about your decisions.

Author: Roger Ellerton PhD, CMC is a certified NLP trainer, coach, certified management consultant and the founder and managing partner of Renewal Technologies. He is the author of Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up: NLP and Common Sense for Coaches, Managers and You and Parents' Handbook: NLP & Common Sense Guide for Family Well-Being. Available from Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Chapters.indigo.ca, Amazon.co.uk, Barnes and Noble and other fine book retailers.

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Humour
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Stockbrokers

Stockbroker's creed: A man is a client until proven broke.

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October. This is one of the peculiarly dangerous months to speculate in stocks in. The others are July, January, September, April, November, May, March, June, December, August and February. - Mark Twain

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More Information
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